Showing posts with label Visiting Teaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Visiting Teaching. Show all posts

Sunday, March 18, 2018

It Was Not By Chance

I have loved doing family history research ever since I was old enough to copy family names from my mother’s genealogy onto my own family group records as a young child.   Family history work has brought the Spirit powerfully into my life and has blessed me with immeasurable peace and joy throughout my life.  Some of my greatest spiritual experiences have come while engaged in family history research and temple work.   I’d like to share with you one of my treasured family history experiences which is both a family history story and a visiting teaching story wrapped together in one.

Many years ago, while living in Utah, I was handed a slip of paper with my new visiting teaching assignment.  One of the names read, “Esther H.”  “Oh how nice,” I thought.  I had been wanting to get to know Esther better.  She was a lovely woman in her 80’s, articulate, wise, and a person of great faith and testimony.  I was a mother of four young children at the time and felt that there was much I could learn from her.  But I had no idea of the blessings that were in store for both of us through this visiting teaching assignment.

I began visiting Esther in her home.  Over the course of our visits I learned many things about her – about her family who had settled that area of Utah, about her husband who had died years before from a heart attack and about her sadness over her only son who had been inactive for years.  She grieved that she had no active posterity.   I learned of her missionary experiences to Bulgaria and her humanitarian work in South America.  She had so many wonderful stories and life experiences to share.  Though we were probably over 40 years apart in age, we became very dear friends.  She showed great interest in my family and the things going on in my life.  I always came away from those visiting teaching visits feeling very uplifted.  My own family was going through some financial hardships at the time, including a job loss, and I was strengthened through those years by her testimony and example of consistent and steady devotion to the gospel.  She had weathered many of her own storms in life.

I looked for ways that I could serve Esther.  She had helped me so much, even sharing the fruit from the fruit trees on her property, which was a great blessing to us.   One day our conversation turned to family history research.  She asked if I knew how to use the computer program to enter and clear family names for ordinance work.  “Yes,” I told her.  “I use it all the time.”  She then explained to me that her husband had been a convert to the church.  There were no other members of the church in his family.  Her husband had been diligent in collecting as much information as he could over the years while on business trips around the world.  He had gotten the temple work done for many of his close ancestors, but not all of them.  He had an aunt, not a member of the Church, with whom he had corresponded who was an avid genealogist and had meticulously collected genealogy on their family.  She had compiled two huge volumes full of genealogical information and histories which she sent to him.  Esther told me that she had been feeling very strong promptings that she needed to get those names to the temple.  She was at a loss, though, because she did not really know how to use a computer.  She had just bought a brand new one, but didn’t know how to use it yet.  She asked if I could teach her how to use the program so that she could type the names in and get the temple work done for her husband’s ancestors.  She was feeling a great sense of urgency about it.

I was joyful.  This was something I definitely could help her with.  Over the next few months I went over to her house regularly to teach her how to use the genealogy program.  The progress was very slow, though.  Her hands and fingers were arthritic and just didn’t work like they used to.  She had a lot of difficulty just trying to master using the computer, let alone the internet and the genealogy program.  Being a very independent person, she was frustrated with herself and her lack of progress.   Adding to her anxiety was that feeling of great urgency to get the work done.  Finally, at the end of one of our teaching sessions, a thought occurred to me and I asked her, “Would you like me to just type this information in for you?  I wouldn’t mind doing it.”  She looked at me with so much relief and said, “Would you? Really?”  She couldn’t believe that I would do this for her.  I told her, “Of course.  I would love to be able to help you.”  She was overjoyed.

Esther then gave me an apple box full of her husband’s genealogy including the 2 hardbound books put together by his aunt – all of his precious family records.  I brought the box home.  I carefully went through every pedigree chart, family group record and the two books and got all of the information entered into the computer.  The project took me two years to complete.  As I went along, I processed batches of names to clear them for temple work.  As I got cards printed for temple work, I brought them over to Esther.  She was so happy and spent every week after that in the temple.  She often brought friends along with her, to help get the temple work done for her husband’s family.  That was something that she could do, and she did it enthusiastically.  It was such a beautiful experience.  We were working together to accomplish this great work – one entering the information and the other doing the temple work. 

As I worked on the genealogy, I learned about her husband’s family – the good people they were, their faith and homesteading experiences in a little town in central Kansas.  I began to feel a closeness with this family, even though they were not my own.  As I worked on the project over those two years, very real blessings, both temporal and spiritual began flowing to our family – a job for my husband after two years of unemployment, the ability to buy a home after years of renting, as well as other spiritual blessings.  We saw the hand of the Lord plainly in our lives.  I felt so uplifted and a divine sense of calling in doing this work.
  
The project finally came to a close when the last ordinance was completed and I brought all the records back to Esther at the end of those two years.  I handed her a disk with all of the genealogy on it and all of the completed ordinance cards – well over 100 cards.  She had tears in her eyes.  The work was finally done.  She was now at peace.

It was not long after the project was completed that new opportunities awaited our family including a new job for my husband and an out of state move to -- Kansas.  What a great surprise to move to the very state where these people came from that we had done the work for!  My heart was filled with joy as we drove through central Kansas and I got to see the place where this family lived out their lives – these people now sealed and ready to move on in their eternal progress in the heavens.

Just a few years later, Esther’s health declined and she passed away.  How grateful I was that the family history and temple work for her husband’s recorded family were all completed.  I knew she would be meeting her husband with great joy.  

In a Priesthood blessing given to me later, it was made known to me that I had been fore-ordained to help with this family history work for this family.  It was not by chance that I was given this sister as my visiting teaching assignment or by chance that we ended up renting a home in that ward.  The hand of the Lord was in it.  I have a deep testimony of the blessings of family history work and of visiting teaching assignments.  I know that the Lord will lead us as we look for ways to serve the sisters in our care and that he stands ready to bless us as we engage ourselves in His marvelous work of salvation.

-Debbie Wood

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Principles of Visiting Teaching

As I provided my January visiting teaching report, I thought about the interactions or lack thereof which had occurred with the sisters I am assigned to watch over.  I had been gone for almost the entire month and had returned with the flu, which kept me in bed for the remaining days of January.  Visiting Teaching had been far from my mind as I traveled and and then became ill.  For the first time in many years, I had to report that I had not "done" my visiting teaching.  I didn't feel that "liking" each other's Facebook posts really counted as true interactions.  I couldn't answer the question, "How are my sisters doing?"  I decided that as 2018 proceeds, I will be better at keeping these sisters and their needs - their concerns - their joys - their sorrows more at the forefront of my thoughts.  By so doing, I believe the Lord will be better able to guide my thoughts to know how I can minister to them - how I can watch over them - how I can befriend them - how I can "Visit Teach" them.

The basic principles of visiting teaching truly haven't changed, but the application and how we think in terms of fulfilling and reporting the assignment has changed.  I thought it might be helpful to publish here the following article that is currently on the Relief Society page of lds.org.  I especially like the question it poses at the end and hope that each of us will consider that question and make a plan for 2018 that will help us become better at ministering.

- Lorie Pierce


Visiting teaching is about ministering. Jesus ministered anytime and anywhere. We can do the same.

To “minister” is to give service, care, or aid that contributes to the comfort or happiness of another. Visiting teaching is about discovering ways to minister to those we visit. Jesus Christ ministered to all—anytime and anywhere. He fed the 5,000, comforted Mary and Martha at the death of their brother, and taught His gospel to the woman at the well. He did it because of His sincere love.

Following His example, as visiting teachers we can come to know and love each sister we visit, remembering that love is the foundation of all we do. When we pray for inspiration to know how to serve her and help her strengthen her faith, “the angels cannot be restrained from being [our] associates.”

From the organization of Relief Society in 1842 to today, the ministering of women has blessed lives. For example, Joan Johnson, an 82-year-old widow, and her visiting teaching companion visit teach their neighbor who is 89 and has pneumonia. They could see that their neighbor didn’t just need them once a month, so they began checking in on her every week in person or by phone.

For other visiting teachers, sending a text or email giving encouragement might be the best thing to do for a sister that month. Making personal connections and listening with an attitude of love is the essence of visiting teaching. Modern technology and time-honored face-to-face visits help us do it anytime, anywhere, and in many ways.2 That is ministering as Jesus did.

Ministering
Rather than provide a specific message, each month this page will feature a different principle to help us minister more effectively to each other. As you pray and seek inspiration, you will know the spiritual message and service each sister needs.

Consider This
How do we stop worrying about “what counts” for visiting teaching and instead focus on what each sister needs from her visiting teachers?


Sunday, November 12, 2017

Change Reflects Ongoing Revelation

Recently, we have seen announcements of various changes to implementation of Church programs and meetings. The most recent changes announced involved visiting teaching, Priesthood & Relief Society curriculum, General Conference meeting schedules and missions/missionary work.

I realize that not everyone is connected through the social media resources of the Church and may have not seen the recent posts published by the Church in conjunction with these announcements.  To help facilitate allowing our sisters to stay current, I am simply posting the links to these recent announcements.  We will undoubtedly receive further information and instruction through our local leaders regarding how these changes are to be implemented.

Priesthood & Relief Society Curriculum

Visiting Teaching

General Conference Sessions

Missions

It is important to remember that while procedures will change as circumstances require, the doctrine of Christ remains constant. Seeing these changes is a witness in itself to the reality of modern revelation.  I would encourage you to take the time to read about these changes, to see how they may directly affect you and your family and to see how you can prepare to allow these changes to bless your life.

- Lorie Pierce

Sunday, September 24, 2017

The Heart of Relief Society



Dear Sisters,

“And the Lord called his people Zion, because they were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them” (Moses 7:18). 

This scripture was used as the opening statement for September's visiting teaching message. I think it embodies what Relief Society is all about. One heart, one mind, living righteously and taking care of each other's needs, -whether they be physical, emotional or spiritual.

It has been said that Visiting Teaching is the heart of Relief Society, and I believe that's true.  And I'm not just talking about the "monthly visit" that we dutifully do.  It's the caring for one another, the genuine interest in each other's lives, and the time and effort spent in service that draws us close as sisters and allows us to grow spiritually in ways we cannot do on our own.

I follow the quarterly reports of our stake, and have been concerned as I've watched the numbers fall.  Too many sisters are not getting visited or contacted.  Do these sisters feel welcome in our wards? Do they have friends among us? Do they feel they have someone to turn to when they have a need? I fear that many opportunities are being missed to reactivate, motivate and serve.  I worry that some sisters are feeling isolated and alone.

I know that I personally feel better when I have visited or contacted the sisters for whom I have stewardship.  Our busy lives can make this difficult, and I never like to impose on their time, (a fear you might share also) but over the years I have learned from and been spiritually fed by wonderful sisters who were "assigned" to my care.  I have walked away feeling like I was the one who benefited most from our visits.

Yes, Visiting Teaching is the heart of Relief Society.  But...we need to get Visiting Teaching into our hearts. Then we can truly be a Zion people.

Sending much love as you go forth and visit the wonderful sisters of the Columbia Stake,

Cindy Erekson
Stake Relief Society President

Sunday, June 25, 2017

Personal Moments with Gordon B. Hinckley

Elizabeth Van Patten - Columbia 1st Ward


"Keep trying, be believing, don't get discouraged, things will work out."


When I was newly married, about 9 months, one of my visiting teachers gave me a beautiful print out of this quote by Gordon B. Hinckley. What she didn't know at the time, was that I had just found out I was pregnant with our first child.

What a shock that was to me. Even though I had just turned 22, I still felt like a teen mom. How were we going to provide for a tiny human when we were both still in school? Where would we put a baby in a one bedroom basement apartment? 

I looked at that quote often throughout my pregnancy and subsequent years. President Hinckley was an eternal optimist. His example helped me to rely on others for support in my time of need and most importantly, to rely on the Lord. I kept believing, remained courageous and things did work out.

Sunday, December 13, 2015

How Has Relief Society Blessed Your Life?


Cynthia Knudson - Columbia 2nd Ward - Stake Primary President

I have been so blessed by being a member of the Relief Society!  It has always been a safe place for me.  I love how we learn something just because we are able to share freely with each other.  Questions and prayers are answered every week in Relief Society.  You can always find someone to help if you don't know how to do something.  I have learned to teach and to serve.  To love and be loved.  My dearest friends are there with me in the Relief Society learning, teaching, and serving with me.  I've enjoyed being a part of two different Relief Society Presidencies and the bonds formed with those sisters are unbreakable.  I have been stretched way beyond what I thought I could endure and have gained a greater capacity to love.  I'm so grateful for my loving Father in Heaven who knows me and what I need to grow and develop as a wife and mother and a woman in this day and age.  
P.S.  Whenever I have free time I can always find something to do in my closet full of unfinished crafts!  (I was usually too busy talking)

Jeri Tidwell - Savage Mill Ward - Stake Primary 1st Counselor

One of my most favorite stories is the time we had just moved to Columbia from Oregon. I was 30 weeks pregnant when we moved. One night I was doing the dishes in our new condo. I was crying as I loaded the dishwasher because I didn't know what I would do with my 2 year old son when I went into labor. I wanted my husband to be able to be with me.  As soon as these thoughts went through my head, my phone rang. It was Trisha Holgato and she happily told me that she was my new visiting teacher. We chatted for a moment, and set up an appointment. Then she said, "Can I take your little boy for you when you go to the hospital?" What a direct answer to my prayer. I was so thankful. 

The day came, and we agreed that she would meet us at the hospital and she would pick up my son. I was so worried he would be upset, and not want to go with her. He saw Trisha walk in the room, and he grabbed his bag and started to leave. He looked back at her from the doorway and said, "Are you coming?" We all laughed. 

I know that Heavenly Father knows us personally. I know he cares about the smallest details in our lives. I know we can pray to him for any need, whether it be silly or serious. I know that the Relief Society is an inspired program and that we are all blessed to be apart of it.

Beverly Gams - Eldersburg Ward - Stake Primary 2nd Counselor

Relief Society has blessed my life in purposeful ways.  All of which have come through acts of service given & received.  As I have fulfilled callings in Relief Society I have gained a great love & appreciation for those I work with & serve.   However,  I feel the most influence & special caring moments have happened through the visiting teaching program.  Visiting teaching has been an opportunity to develop & nourish meaningful friendships with amazing, talented ladies who are good examples to me.  My companions have always been such faithful sisters that I have enjoyed working with & who have blessed me in the various stages of motherhood & wifehood.  I am very grateful for the visiting teaching program.  Relief Society blesses me because it helps me be more Christlike & to understand His merciful atonement which enables me to forgive and be forgiven.  This fills me with immense joy. What a blessing!

Robin Mikolyski - Columbia 2nd Ward - Stake Primary Secretary

Relief Society has blessed my life in so many ways. First of all, whether I changed wards within a town, or moved across the country, I was able to make friends quickly through Relief Society. Second, I've appreciated the chances I've had to hold callings in Relief Society, getting to know the sisters through teaching and service. I love how much I can "forget myself and go to work" (referencing President Hinckley). I am not able to attend Relief Society Sunday meetings very often right now because I have a one-year-old who is too loud and restless to join me, and I really miss the Spirit I feel as we learn Gospel truths together. It is truly an inspired program that I am grateful for! 

Sunday, July 19, 2015

More a Way of Life

Recently, I had a conversation with my 18 year old daughter about visiting teaching.  It occurred to me that although she had grown up knowing that I was a visiting teacher and having seen me provide service in that assignment, no "formal" training had been provided to her.  Now, she is herself a visiting teacher, and I, along with her Relief Society leaders, have a responsibility to provide that training.  

As I pondered on the training resources available, I decided it would be of value to highlight some of them here.

Handbook 2: Administering the Church, Section 9.5 provides information and instruction regarding the visiting teaching program and responsibilities of visiting teachers.

- Daughters of My Kingdom, Chapter 7, "Pure Religion: Watchcare and Ministering through Visiting Teaching" is an amazing chapter that recounts the history of visiting teaching and provides insights on how visiting teachers minister and serve in the building of Zion.

- Visiting Teaching: The Priviledge of Ministering is a page on lds.org with content and links provided to help us learn how to serve as visiting teachers.

- Relief Society: A Sacred Work, Julie B. Beck (15th Relief Society General President), Oct 2009 is one of the best talks given about the purposes of Relief Society and includes an inspiring and instructive section on visiting teaching.

- Responsibilities of Visiting Teachers is a training video in the Leadership Training Library on lds.org which provides a short overview linked to the Handbook 2 instruction.  It is a short, yet visual way to instruct us in our "job".

- Reporting Visiting Teaching is another training video in the Leadership Training Library which specifically addresses reporting and reminds us that visiting teaching is more about people than a task to be completed.

- Visiting Teaching in the Work of Salvation is also available in the Leadership Training Library and helps us to see the importance of our assignments in the larger picture of bringing souls unto Christ.
"Visiting teaching becomes the Lord’s work when our focus is on people rather than percentages. In reality, visiting teaching is never finished. It is more a way of life than a task. Faithfully serving as a visiting teacher is evidence of our discipleship."  (Julie B. Beck, 15th Relief Society General President, Oct 2009)

Is visiting teaching easy?  Is it convenient?  Does it sometimes feel forced?  Perhaps No, No, Yes might be your answers - they have sometimes been mine.  But as I have thought about my own visiting teachers over the many years since I turned 18 and about the sisters I have taught - one thing becomes clear - this is the Lord's work and when we "let" Him participate with us the burden is lighter and the work is sweeter.

-Lorie Pierce